The Four Essential Skills

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This guidebook breaks down the Four Essential Skills Kids Need to be high functioning members of society. Read the manifesto? This is the perfect next step. Filled with practical frameworks and how-to’s, it’s all you need to get the fundamentals of parenting down pat. And at only 5$ each (which, by the way is less than a grande pumpkin spice latte at Starbucks), you’ll get a distilled and highly practical guide for creating incredible kids at a fraction of the time and cost of doing all the research yourself.



You probably haven’t considered what the goals of parenting are, aside from keeping the kids alive from birth through to the age of eighteen.

Throw in some good grades at school, no unplanned teenage pregnancies and minimal drug and alcohol use and, after 20+ years of parenting, we’ll pat ourselves on the back and say “job well done” as  we pack up their room into the pickup truck and escort them off to college.

Turns out that we might actually need to know a little bit more about what makes healthy and competent people, so that we can start giving our children the lessons and experiences that will give them the functional competencies (aka skills) that they’ll need to navigate life.

What are those skills? Turns out the list isn’t that long.

  1. Emotional Regulation is the ability to respond to your environment or the people in it instead of reacting. The ability to recognize and control those emotional responses instead of being controlled by them.
  2. Executive Function refers to a set of “higher order” thinking skills, namely the ability to problem solve, plan and follow through with goals and initiatives. Executive function also helps you focus, manage time and think critically.
  3. Communication is the ability to express your needs and values in ways that increase the likelihood that others will take them into consideration. Communication is something we generally think we understand, but it turns out we’re often pretty clueless.
  4. Self Efficacy is personal power. The ability to affect change in your own life through taking action, and is a belief that you can accomplish what you set out to do.

Without each of those four competencies (and certain skillsets within them), which we break down in detail in this guidebook, it’s actually really hard to be a high functioning member of society. And we’re pretty sure that, despite all the possible goals of parenting, raising low functioning kids isn’t on the list.